Hatred of us, hatred by us – jealousy, fear Or Optimism, happy, satisfied and loved.


Notes for my Talk –

1st Feb  Hatred of us, hatred by us – jealousy, fear           Or Optimism, happy, satisfied and loved.

Readings – Proverbs 14:29-30; 1 John 4 16-21; Matthew 13 31-33

Proverbs 14:29-30

29 People with understanding control their anger;
a hot temper shows great foolishness.

30 A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body;
jealousy is like cancer in the bones.

Proverbs 27:3-4

3 A stone is heavy and sand is weighty,
but the resentment caused by a fool is even heavier.

4 Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood,
but jealousy is even more dangerous.

1 John 4 16-21

God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. 17 And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.

18 Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 19 We love each other[b] because he loved us first.

20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer,[c] that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? 21 And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their fellow believers.[d]

 

Matthew 13 31-33

Parable of the Mustard Seed

31 Here is another illustration Jesus used: “The Kingdom of Heaven is like a mustard seed planted in a field. 32 It is the smallest of all seeds, but it becomes the largest of garden plants; it grows into a tree, and birds come and make nests in its branches.”

Parable of the Yeast

33 Jesus also used this illustration: “The Kingdom of Heaven is like the yeast a woman used in making bread. Even though she put only a little yeast in three measures of flour, it permeated every part of the dough.”

 

  •  We see greed, jealousy of what others have, fear of what others might do, Hatred of us and of those who are different all around us in the world, even in our families.

 

Why?

 

Jim Webster says – 

“There’s an old Wall Street saying: “Financial markets are driven by two powerful emotions – greed and fear”. It might be true, but our society is driven by two other emotions, fear and contempt.”

However if all people are equal, if all people are of equal worth,  as they are if they are created  ‘in the image of God’, then they are equally worthy of respect. If they disagree with you then their opinion, whether it is right or wrong, is just as worthy of being aired as yours or mine is.

Except as a society we don’t respect others views or ways of life. Various groups, various subgroups are regarded by the leading core in society with contempt. We use contempt to ‘monster’ groups. They stop being people; they become ‘rednecks’, immigrants, wags, chavs. Trolls, etc’

And as groups turn inwards the fear starts. Oppression comes out of fear. Various churches oppressed others because they feared that they would be swept away by the new interpretation.

Islam lives in fear, in the East they’re losing people to Christianity, in the West they see their sons and daughters being secularised. They can see the writing on the wall and they are afraid.

Countries become afraid of each other, because they have something we want, they are bigger than us, they live different to us…..

But then we fear as well. We’re surrounded by these groups we’ve ‘monstered’ and we’re afraid of them.

We fear losing the way are life is, the way I like a service in church to be, the sounds and sights I hear around me…… [think about how you feel when you hear a non English language in the supermarket or bus]

We fear that people with different ways of doing things will take away the way we like to do things, we fear that they will want what we have ..

We are jealous of what they have and how they think. Rather than be happy, satisfied and  Optimistic with what we have we fear losing it.

 

  •  Lets look at why these things, hatred of us and hatred by us – jealousy and fear, happen.  The bible has a lot to say on this.

 

 Proverbs 27:3-4

3 A stone is heavy and sand is weighty,
but the resentment caused by a fool is even heavier.

4 Anger is cruel, and wrath is like a flood,
but jealousy is even more dangerous.

 

Ps 109 1 O God, whom I praise,
    don’t stand silent and aloof
2 while the wicked slander me
and tell lies about me.
3 They surround me with hateful words
and fight against me for no reason.
4 I love them, but they try to destroy me with accusations
even as I am praying for them!
5 They repay evil for good,
and hatred for my love.

 

We do not like people talking badly about us or the things we like doing, particularly when we can see no reason for it, and we are often blind to our own faults.

We are doing things right in our own eyes and think we are under attack in many ways.

WE see ourselves as being good and yet they hate us.

Why?

 

Galatians 5:19-21

19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarrelling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division,21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

 

Our sinful natures cause us to strike out at others and them to strike out at us.  Even though we do not always see it that way.

 

1 Timothy 6:3-5

3 Some people may contradict our teaching, but these are the wholesome teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. These teachings promote a godly life.4 Anyone who teaches something different is arrogant and lacks understanding. Such a person has an unhealthy desire to quibble over the meaning of words. This stirs up arguments ending in jealousy, division, slander, and evil suspicions. 5 These people always cause trouble. Their minds are corrupt, and they have turned their backs on the truth. To them, a show of godliness is just a way to become wealthy.

When we disagree it breeds division, suspicions, slander etc, in other and in us.

Why do we disagree?   ….. because we are each different from the other, it we would be clones if we where all the same. Some just use disagreement to gain power and wealth, they have turned away from truth.

 

2 Corinthians 12:19-21

19 Perhaps you think we’re saying these things just to defend ourselves. No, we tell you this as Christ’s servants, and with God as our witness. Everything we do, dear friends, is to strengthen you. 20 For I am afraid that when I come I won’t like what I find, and you won’t like my response. I am afraid that I will find quarreling, jealousy, anger, selfishness, slander, gossip, arrogance, and disorderly behavior. 21 Yes, I am afraid that when I come again, God will humble me in your presence. And I will be grieved because many of you have not given up your old sins. You have not repented of your impurity, sexual immorality, and eagerness for lustful pleasure.

We do not like being told we are wrong, or how to do things by others.

Our old attitudes, make us sin.

 

Job 5:2

Surely resentment destroys the fool, and jealousy kills the simple.

 

 Deuteronomy 28

64 For the Lord will scatter you among all the nations from one end of the earth to the other. There you will worship foreign gods that neither you nor your ancestors have known, gods made of wood and stone! 65 There among those nations you will find no peace or place to rest. And the Lord will cause your heart to tremble, your eyesight to fail, and your soul to despair. 66 Your life will constantly hang in the balance. You will live night and day in fear, unsure if you will survive. 67 In the morning you will say, ‘If only it were night!’ And in the evening you will say, ‘If only it were morning!’ For you will be terrified by the awful horrors you see around you.

We follow the wrong ideas, people and activates, we receive the wrong information. We want things to be how we want them rather than how they are.

Some people have just rejected God and His ways totally.

We are told that others want to do something bad to us, and they think the same.

 

 The Bible says – Wicked people, people who are not happy with their own lot hate those who are happy.

People get angry because they are frustrated, with there lot, think you have more than them, that your way of life threatens theirs or are doing things which offend God or each other. The way one group worships or runs their country. The way others depict you or your beliefs, the threat to your way of doing things from another group, and on and on…

Fear of difference, of losing out, of being hurt, of the strange, of the unusual,  of being taken advantage of, all feed hatred of us and by us, and jealousy. These fears come from deep within us, and are used by the devil to control us.

 

 

  • Christine Gilland is an Australian freelance writer and editor. talking about internet bullying –  The same weaknesses run through all of us; the same capacity to be short with someone in a moment of irritation, or to say something in a fit of jealousy. We have the capacity to ignore or ostracise those we feel in some way superior to.

 

The phenomenon of ordinary people behaving uncharacteristically when they are part of a group is called deindividuation. Coupled with the anonymity of the internet, the darker parts of us can be given free-reign online.

Perhaps a clue as to the best way forward is in the remarkable story of Cambridge University professor Mary Beard, who ended up writing a job reference for a former student who had sent her an abusive message online. She had publically confronted him after the comments, and he apologised. Since then, she has befriended and helped not only him, but several other online bullies, using social media to identify those behind the abusive comments, confront their behaviour and then extend kindness toward them.
The fact is we may not all be facing down Twitter trolls or composing toxic messages to strangers, but as the internet becomes more integrated into our lives, the risk that we will encounter the dark side of it only increases. As Christians, we can’t check out of this, or plead ignorance any longer.
Our journey to overcoming the perceived problem of social media is exactly the same journey of redemption we are called to undertake throughout our lives: the humility to realise our own brokenness; the empathy to see others as human and therefore broken, too; and the wisdom to cultivate truth and love in all our interactions.
We can create all the resolutions we want this January, but perhaps the best one we can make is, to paraphrase the apostle Paul, is to advance the kingdom in a very dark world, to all people, by all possible means. Even on Twitter.

We even call people Trolls to make them different from us.

 

  •  Now lets look at what Gods Wisdom says to us about dealing with those situations.

What does God’s wisdom say about living well in those situations.

 

How can we be optimistic, happy and loving to all, even when they are different and we fell threatened?

 

Leviticus 19:16-18

 16 “Do not spread slanderous gossip among your people.[a] “Do not stand idly by when your neighbor’s life is threatened. I am the Lord.  17 “Do not nurse hatred in your heart for any of your  relatives.[b] Confront people directly so you will not be held guilty for their sin.  18 “Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against a fellow Israelite, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord.

 

Happiness

Ps 16

9 No wonder my heart is glad, and I rejoice.[b]
My body rests in safety.
10 For you will not leave my soul among the dead[
c]
or allow your holy one[
d] to rot in the grave.
11 You will show me the way of life,
granting me the joy of your presence
and the pleasures of living with you forever.[
e] 

 

 

1 Titus 6 17 Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. 18 Tell them to use their money to do good. They should be rich in good works and generous to those in need, always being ready to share with others. 19 By doing this they will be storing up their treasure as a good foundation for the future so that they may experience true life.

 

 

1 Thess 3 9 How we thank God for you! Because of you we have great joy as we enter God’s presence.

 

WE have happiness in God, in the Joy He has in us and the love He has for us.

We get this by being in Gods presence.

That leads to us having happiness in others as well.

 

 

Satisfaction

Heb 13 5 Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never fail you.    I will never abandon you.”[b6 So we can say with confidence,  “The Lord is my helper,    so I will have no fear.     What can mere people do to me?”

 

Luke 3  11 John replied, “If you have two shirts, give one to the poor. If you have food, share it with those who are hungry.”

12 Even corrupt tax collectors came to be baptized and asked, “Teacher, what should we do?”

13 He replied, “Collect no more taxes than the government requires.”

14 “What should we do?” asked some soldiers.

John replied, “Don’t extort money or make false accusations. And be content with your pay.”

 

Ecc 5 10  10 Those who love money will never have enough. How meaningless to think that wealth brings true happiness!

 

 

 Heb 13 5   Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said,

“I will never fail you.     I will never abandon you.

 

Satisfaction comes from not loving things other than God, and giving of what we have.

Giving shows we do not want more and have enough.

That we trust that God will provide enough for us, “give us our daily bread.”

This brings satisfaction as we are not striving for more all the time.

 

 

So being happy and satisfied comes from knowing the love of God.

From knowing that we can trust Him in all things.

 

 

 

in Matthew 14             Jesus came toward them, walking on the water. 26 When the disciples saw him walking on the water, they were terrified. In their fear, they cried out, “It’s a ghost!”

27 But Jesus spoke to them at once. “Don’t be afraid,” he said. “Take courage. I am here![c]

28 Then Peter called to him, “Lord, if it’s really you, tell me to come to you, walking on the water.”

29 “Yes, come,” Jesus said.

So Peter went over the side of the boat and walked on the water toward Jesus.30 But when he saw the strong[d] wind and the waves, he was terrified and began to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he shouted.

31 Jesus immediately reached out and grabbed him. “You have so little faith,”Jesus said. “Why did you doubt me?”

 

 

The counter to fear is faith in Jesus, fear puts a barrier between us and God.

Fear and hatred shows we do not trust Him to help us and be with us.

We need to reach out with faith.

When we do we can walk on water when we don’t we sink.

 

 

 

Living this way is what Jesus was on about in the parables in our Matthew reading

Matthew 13 31-33      Parable of the Mustard Seed

31 Here is another illustration Jesus used: “The Kingdom of Heaven is like a mustard seed planted in a field. 32 It is the smallest of all seeds, but it becomes the largest of garden plants; it grows into a tree, and birds come and make nests in its branches.”

Parable of the Yeast

33 Jesus also used this illustration: “The Kingdom of Heaven is like the yeast a woman used in making bread. Even though she put only a little yeast in three measures of flour, it permeated every part of the dough.

 

At Christmas I spoke about us being like a tree, and what was on the top and where were its roots.

Here Jesus is saying that even a little faith will grow into a big tree, and in that tree others will find shelter. They may not all be the same but they will find safety there.

If we think about our life as that tree, then we want our faith and trust in Jesus to allow others to rest in peace with us, giving shelter to them in their need.

 

We are to find that safety in the Tree of Life, Jesus and His Spirit, as we do so it will spread through all parts of our lives, driving away fear and therefore hatred of others. It will not stop them from hating us, but we can combat that with the yeast of Love. A love from God which others just can’t understand.

Just a little of that yeast will change a lot of the hate around us.

 

Clare spoke about compassion, and Robert about Justice, both come from Love of others, and not treating them as they treat us but as Christ treats us.

Think about the Truth and Reconciliation system in South Africa after Apartate

 

That is what we are all called upon to do.

As Christ changes us, brings new life to us, so we will change the world around us.

They might hate us, but that does not mean we have to hate and fear them.

 

1 John 4    18 Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 19 We love each other[b] because he loved us first.

20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer,[c] that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?

 

Proverbs 14:29-30

29 People with understanding control their anger;
a hot temper shows great foolishness.

30 A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body;
    jealousy is like cancer in the bones.

 

 

Let us ask Jesus for His help in living this way.

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